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I have been having a tough time lately … tough time at work … tough time being around my friends … tough time being alone … tought time with being motivated to do anything. I hate it. I really want to be all type-A again and be on top of EVERYTHING … but I’m not, and it sucks. It’s frustrating and it almost makes me angry. At least I have a roommate who makes me laugh out loud and keep me being social.

What are your tips & tricks to get motivated and do what you really need to do.


Sudden Stress

Today was a stressful day, all of a sudden. I woke up on time, got to work plenty early, went about my routine JUST. LIKE. NORMAL.

Then I called the courthouse to check on my divorce proceedings and learned that essentially, I am divorced. The default judgment had been signed in DECEMBER but they didn’t send me the copy that I asked for, so I didn’t know! I cried once I hung up the phone but knew I had to keep my act together so I filled out the final judgment papers, took them to the courthouse and dropped them off. The judge on our case signs things right away so the divorce is final either today or tomorrow when it’s signed. I’ll know more on Friday, but I think within the next two days it will all be finalized and I’ll probably cry a bit more.

I’m sad because it’s the end of an era, but looking forward to what the new era will bring. I’m proud that I’ve handled it so well so far and I have learned more about myself in the past six months than I have in the past six years. Some days I really don’t like Ex but most days I want to thank him.


Need a laugh today?

Laughing makes me feel better. I needed a good laugh tonight and Dooce helped me out.

DaMomma’s stories about her little girls always make me laugh out loud, too. Check her out!

Dooce + DaMomma + American Idol tryouts = happy, giggly Sarah


A friend with something to say

I have a friend, who I consider close, who always has something smart to say and todays post, above all her other ones of late, made me think, and I want you to think too. “Don’t laugh at me….”

On another note, a fellow blogger posted this entry in her post and I’ve copied & pasted it directly here in hope of passing it on.

I just got an email from a family associate about the daughter of someone they know. There is a local girl MISSING. Please look at the picture below, read the text, copy it, paste it into your own blog… let’s use the power of the blogging community for good.

Thanks in advance to everyone who takes two minutes to look at this photo and read the story.

It might save a life and a family.

Official Story: WTOP WASHINGTON – There is no evidence of foul play in the disappearance of two teenage girls missing since Jan. 19, Montgomery County Police say.
Police are looking for Rachel Samantha Smith, 16, of the 14000 block of Platinum Drive in Potomac, and Rachel Crites, 18, of the 600 block of Gate Stone Drive in Gaithersburg.
However, police are concerned about the mental state of Smith and Crites. Police and family members say they want the girls to know the concerns or problems they may be facing can be resolved.
An entry from Crites’ diary has her family particularly concerned, WRC-TV (Channel 4) reported Tuesday.
The entry read: “Wherever I end up laying, whether buried or cremated, I want to stay with my true love, buried next to her. This is my choice. I’m sorry.”
Detectives believe the girls may have traveled to Charleston, W.Va. on Jan. 19, but do not know if they are still in that area.
The girls were last seen on Jan. 19 before leaving to see a movie in Georgetown.
Smith is 5 feet 1 inches tall and weighs about 118 pounds. She has green eyes, and medium-length brown hair.
Police say she might be driving a dark blue 1997 Subaru Outback station wagon with Maryland license plate MBJ-485.
Rachel Crites is 5 feet 4 inches tall, and weighs about 110 pounds. She has brown eyes and brown medium-length hair.
You can see pictures of both girls by clicking on the photo gallery.
Smith had spent the night at Crites’ house on Thursday with both sets of parents’ permission.
Anyone with information about the location of either girls is asked to call the Montgomery County Police non-emergency telephone number at (301) 279-8000 or the Family Crimes Division at (240) 773-5400.


Need a pick me up?

Today, when I needed a pick me up, there have been two pictures on blogs I read that have done so. Please enjoy these pictures and check out their blogs!

MadHaiku – for your silly, thought provoking, or utterly irreverant Haiku

quack quack
CuteOverload – need a picture to go along with the previous “I-need-a-pet-to-keep-me-sane” post? Borrow one from CuteOverload!


I seem …

… to be writing about things that effect me. It’s not a bad thing, per se, but if any of you readers have any specific requests, please leave me a comment or send me an email to let me know what you want me to do a little research on!

I take my statistics final next Thursday and then the GRE (again) on January 20th. Tonight when I get home, rather than actually studying, I’ll write about test-induced stress. : )


How to Avoid a Hangover

The most obvious way to avoid a hangover? Don’t drink alcohol! However, there are other “tips” and “tricks” that the experts (whoever they are) recommend for the morning after. With New Year’s Eve coming up, I thought that I’d share a few of my favorites.

  • Try limiting yourself to a drink an hour … the chances of not feeling so hot the next morning increase greatly when you drink five or more drinks, especially in a short amount of time. Pace yourself!
  • Sip, rather than gulp your drinks; this is probably more polite, as well.
  • Drink water between your alcoholic drinks, this will not only keep your pace slower, it will keep you hydrated and prevent the day-after-edema.
  • Don’t drink on an empty stomach – eat something that will help your body process the alcohol you plan on drinking.

If you still wake up not feeling so hot, here are some more ideas that might help you. Everyone is different though, so what works for your roommate may not work for you!

  • Drink a little more! Wait, wasn’t the whole point of a hangover to rid your body of the previous night’s alcohol? While it helps, it only prolongs your hangover.
  • Eat a small meal to settle your stomach.
  • Rehydrate yourself. That headache you have it? It’s probably because you wee’d out more than you took in last night; your body needs liquid!
  • Avoid aspirin as it can irritate your stomach along with the alcohol that you drank the night before. If you have to kill the pain, take as little as possible.
  • Go back to bed; let your body rest – drinking may throw your circadian system off by as much as SIX HOURS!

All in all, drink in moderation and safely.


Mental & Emotional Health Resources; Part I

If you’re reading this blog, it may be from a search and I just want to make sure that if you’re looking for “mental & emotional health” help, that I can point you in the correct direction. If this is an emergency, please call 9-1-1 and let them know that you are dealing with an extreme emotional or mental health issue.

If you would rather not call 9-1-1 for immediate medical assistance, but feel like hurting yourself, please call, toll-free the suicide prevention hotline an speak anonymously with someone. Please.

ULifeLine -mental health self evaluation test … not as good as a doctor’s word, but may send you in the right direction

Mental Health & Psychology Resources Online to read about many issues

Self Diagnosis of mental health issues; while not the same as professional medical attention, this may be the push you need

Mental Help dot Net a site that taught me enough about getting the help I needed when I needed & finally wanted it


It’s not really Christmas, is it?

It doesn’t feel like Christmas this year to me and so I’ve been doing some reading on how to make yourself feel good when you are alone during the holidays. This may sound really strange to some of you because I’m still young, but it’s the first Christmas in a decade that I’ve been single, and I don’t know what to do with myself. I didn’t get to give a million little presents to Neener, and I don’t get to receive a million little presents from him either. We did buy one another a gift (I bought him a new bathrobe and he bought me new flannel pajamas … which to me scream “married-people-gifts”) but it’s still not the same. Normally my Christmas-time is split between five different houses and I’m busier than a one-armed-wallpaper-hanger. This year it’s the exact opposite, and I’m having a hard time not feeling sorry for myself. I know that I could be worse-off and that there are millions of other people who are worse off than me, but it’s been hard being just THROWN into this situation. I know that Neener is also having a rough time, but he still has three houses he’ll spend Christmas at – and he is very close to his family.

So, the “article” that I found I agreed most with was actually an article from eHow. I copied & pasted it directly only adding my own notes in italics because I agreed with most things!

STEP 1: Treat yourself to a vacation you’ve always wanted to take, whether it’s a cruise, a week at a ski resort or a New York shopping-and-theater binge. I am hoping to take a cruise next year. If I’m single I’ll take my best friend Weena with me; her parents will understand the kidnapping!

STEP 2: Cook your favorite dinner, light a fire, curl up on the sofa and watch a feel-good video. Since I’ll be alone this Christmas night (gotta work on Tuesday) I’ll do just this. I’ll have to think about what I want though. My favorite meal … hmmm … I still have turkey from last weekend so maybe I’ll make dumplings too.

STEP 3: Start that book you’ve been meaning to read, or reread a childhood favorite. I have How the Grinch Stole Christmas so I could pull this one out. It involves almost cleaning out the hope chest though! LOL

STEP 4: Pick up the phone and call a friend who always makes you laugh. Merry Christmas, it’s Sarah; make me laugh! I have a tenative online catch-up date with a long-time friend who I just got in contact with and she makes me laugh, too, so this will probably work out.

STEP 5: Write in your journal, or start one. Lately, this has been a depressing job for me. I have been skipping my paper journal and writing here instead. I’ll probably post here on Christmas day just to keep my mind occupied!

STEP 6: Get around to projects you’ve been putting off, such as making a scrapbook of last year’s vacation mementos, painting the bathroom or refinishing that antique dresser Aunt Louise left you. Most likely you’ll find the process meditative, and you’ll have lasting results to show for your efforts. All of this, just on Christmas? Around the holidays I can see this being productive. Today I cleaned my room really well, and tomorrow before I head South to see my family I’m going to clean the bathroom. Maybe Christmas night I’ll clean out the downstairs closet (that is a disaster) or hang the pictures that have been sitting in the living room since I moved in!

STEP 7: Take your dog for a long walk. If you don’t have a dog, borrow someone else’s. I don’t even KNOW anyone who has a dog!

STEP 8: Grab your sketchbook (or buy one) and head outside. Drawing, even if you think you can’t, makes you see the world in a whole new way. Uhm, unless you really CAN’T draw … then it makes you feel depressed! LOL I’ll write instead; I know I can handle that. Thankyouverymuch!

STEP 9: Plan a special treat for every day if your solo period will be an extended one. Choose things that please you: a visit to the art museum, dinner and a play, a hike in the woods or a walk on a wintry beach. This makes sense. Today’s special treat was not showering and drinking TWO cups of coffee. LOL Tomorrow’s special treat will be opening presents. Monday’s special treat will be cinnamon rolls and knowing that I will survive Christmas every year from here on out!

STEP 10: Assemble a solo-party emergency kit, especially if you live alone in snow country and your plans include holiday travel. Stash some favorite delicacies in the pantry and freezer: bottles of your favorite wines and spirits; books, CDs and videos you know you’ll enjoy; firewood, bubble bath, candles – whatever makes you feel indulged and contented. Uhm, firewood? For what fireplace? LOL I could have a campfire on the back patio if I want to get kicked out of my condo! LOL


Lots of room, Part II

And we’re back to how random things can be likened to Mental & Emotional Health!

Names: names are touchy subjects, they can be both positive and negative. Names have so many connotations, and it’s hard to get past either of them. Speaking of names, I have been using pseudonyms on this site just to protect other people … so if you see your “name” on here (even your “fake” name … and want it removed, let me know.
Oxen: they scare me … enough said.
Panic attacks: a subject I will probably write a lot about because I deal with them daily (sometimes just dealing means fighting them off, or living with them), and I want to educated others on how to help those who live with panic disorders.
Quiche: is gross, I always feel guilty and bad for turning it down, but I don’t like it. Guilt, for me, induces major stress because I never want to make anyone else feel bad.
Reading: like books, I use reading as stress-reliever and an escape. I read anything and everything I can get my hands on – I especially love self-help books because I’m very interested in healing myself. I wish that everyone knew how to read – it’s such an amazing escape technique.
Sarah: that’s me. I am a big ball of mental & emotional health; not normally always “good” mental & emotional health, but that’s me. I used to want to change my name. Growing up I wanted to be a Julie. Now I’d like to take my middle name as a first name because it can be shortened … to a nickname … and I can’t do that with Sarah. I think, if I move to a whole new town/state/etc for graduate school I may change my name. Honest. It’d be the new start I think I need & want.
Thumb wars: I’m not much for competition. The only sport I ever enjoyed was running because I could do it alone and I didn’t have to do it as a race … I could just run. I’m hoping that with a gym membership I use the exercise as a mental health aid and run to get things out. Next week, next week. (BTW, that link is hilarious – check it out – great for mental & emotional health if you like laughing!)
Unicorns: give little girls something to believe in. Everyone needs something to believe in. I am learning, day by day, to believe in myself. This blogging has already helped me get farther in my struggle to do so.
Victory: because I don’t like competition, victory is especially exciting for me. Right now I’m concentrating on victory over any mental or emotional illness I have. It may be that I have to take drugs to win, or I might one day be able to do it without, but for now, I have my heart & mind set on victory. : )
Winter: leads me to Seasonal Afective Disorder. The dark days, rain (in Oregon) and just general lowness of the time of year drags me down. I will probably write a post about SAD eventually for those who don’t know much about it.
X: uhm, I’m stressed about finding a good x-word. LOL I’m skipping this one.
Yams: I love yams. It’s my favorite Thanksgiving food, and most people think I’m disgusting because of it. This makes me happy to eat them, and I have learned to cook them year-round so that I can enjoy the taste through all the seasons!
Zoos: some people are depressed by zoos, some are excited. Me, I’m part of the latter … except for the aviary. I’m scared to death of being poo’ed on by a bird! LOL